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Beyond Childhood: The Struggle of Building Meaningful Relationships as an Adult

Why is it so hard to make new friends as an adult? I mean, seriously, I used to make friends by just sharing my favorite crayon in kindergarten. But now? It's like trying to solve a Rubik's Cube while blindfolded. Life just gets in the way. People move away, schedules get hectic, and let's face it, we can be a little more guarded with our time and energy. Plus, making new friends at work or the gym feels like speed dating without the guarantee of a free drink.

It's not like we don't try, though. We join clubs, volunteer, and put ourselves out there. But making new friends can feel like a job interview, with us trying to present our best selves and hoping they like us enough to call us back. It's like we're all in a secret society and we need to know the secret handshake just to be accepted.

Maybe the problem is that we're not as carefree as we used to be. When we were kids, making friends was easy. "Hi, my name is Jen. You like smoothies? Me too! Boom, best friends for life." But now, we're more self-conscious, guarded, and pickier about who we let into our inner circles. We're not willing to settle for just anyone who likes smoothies anymore. We want to find the people who share our passions, our sense of humor, and our outlook on life.

But finding those people isn't always easy. It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack, or a good hair day on a rainy day. We go out to social events, make small talk, and hope that we'll click with someone. But more often than not, we end up going home alone, feeling like we just wasted a perfectly good outfit.

So, what's the solution? I wish I had a magic answer, but the truth is, there isn't one. Making new friends as an adult is hard. But that doesn't mean we should give up. We just need to keep trying, keep putting ourselves out there, and keep embracing our own weirdness. After all, the people who love us for who we truly are are the ones who will stick around for the long haul.

So, to all my fellow friendship-seekers out there, let's not give up just yet. Let's keep trying new things, meeting new people, and who knows, maybe one day we'll find our new BFF over a mutual love of tacos and bad karaoke.

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